Soft Landing Divorce Settlement Method

Do you value fair costs, compressed timelines, your well-being and a favourable outcome?
If you have children, are approaching retirement, or simply in the primary pursuits of life, no matter what your station in life, separation and divorce often presents some unique challenges. That said reaching a settlement should not break you financially or break your family. Like life, Separation and divorce also have their stages. The early decisions you make and the path you take are directly connected to the quality of your outcome.

Let’s hear from Divorce Industry insiders about lawyers and litigation.

“Entering the litigation process forces people to take an adversarial stance because that’s the way the system is designed.”

“Because a court can only do so many things, the answers are impeaching us already. Has to be custody, has to be access, has to be amount of support, has to be division of assets, in a way that the law stipulates. So they’re very bounded by the results because a court can only order so many things.”

“Lawyers unfortunately because that’s their job, tend to reinforce that [adversarial stance]. When you have people who are hurt, who are in crises, who are afraid, who are worried, and they see it as a war. And that’s really dreadful for kids”

June Maresca – Family Court Judge

“The process requires people to bring out the worst in each other. My ex-husband is like this and like that, all the most horrible things. My ex-wife is like this and like that, it brings out the worst in people. So the other party reading that gets their back up and retaliates.”

“She said I knew that our marriage was broken, but after the litigation our family was broken. And it just, it broke my heart.”

Toni Pietrantoni – Family Law Lawyer

“Once you thrown mud at somebody and they throw mud back at you, it typically gets to the point where the hate level does not decrease, the hate level increases.”

“When I see litigation, it’s based on a binary system. You either win or you lose, or on an issue, you’re right or you’re wrong.”

Richard Bennett – Family Law Lawyer

“And at one point my mom said well you have to choose who you’re going to live with, me or your dad. And I couldn’t study for about a good two months and we had finals coming up, so it was difficult.”

Child of Divorce

“The time has come for a fresh conceptual approach to resolution of family disputes in Ontario”

Warren Winkler – Ontario Chief Justice  2007 – 2013

“The empirical evidence shows that it isn’t necessarily the separation and the divorcing of parents that creates the psychological and emotional damage in children, it is the conflict that happens afterwards.”

Julia Haasz  – Family Law Lawyer

“The litigation process is expensive, time-consuming, and it’s not going to have the effect people think it’s going to have.”

Francine E. Van Melle  – Family Court Judge