Family Mediator for Divorce Mediation in Aurora, Ontario

As a family mediator and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA), I had the privilege of working with Mary and Bruce, a couple who demonstrated remarkable resilience and unwavering dedication to their children’s well-being throughout their separation. Their journey is a testament to the power of family mediation in navigating the emotional and financial complexities of separation and divorce and crafting amicable solutions.

Background and Personal Information

Mary, a 44-year-old school teacher, and Bruce, a 46-year-old plumber, were married on July 24, 2001. Their unique situation, with Mary’s Master’s in Education and Bruce’s successful plumbing business, made their separation a complex process. They have two wonderful children, Madison (14) and Mackenzie (17), who attend Aurora High School. Their decision to separate on July 30, 2020, after nearly two decades together, was a testament to their commitment to finding the best solution for their family. They had built a life together in Aurora, Ontario, which added another layer of complexity to their separation.

Family History

Mary and Bruce, inspired by Mary’s sister’s painful and drawn-out divorce, took a proactive approach to their separation. They were determined to avoid a similar fate and to prioritize their emotional well-being and financial stability. Despite attending 12 sessions of marriage counselling, they ultimately decided that separation was the best path forward.

Current Living Arrangements

Bruce moved in with his parents across town six months before mediation. They agreed to delay the sale of their three-bedroom matrimonial home until Madison graduated from high school, using their savings to maintain the property. This decision was pivotal in providing stability for their children during the transition.

Financial Details

Mary earns $119,000 annually, while Bruce earns $140,000 annually.  We focused on managing their financial affairs, debts, and pensions. Bruce agreed to pay child support per the Federal Child Support Guideline, amounting to $456 monthly. Both parents shared the children’s extra expenses equally.

Parenting Plan

The primary focus was Madison and Mackenzie’s welfare. Mary and Bruce crafted a shared parenting schedule, translating to a 60/40 time split. They agreed to remain flexible to accommodate the children’s needs. Each parent could take the children on an out-of-country vacation for up to two weeks annually, ensuring that both parents remained integral parts of their lives. Joint decision-making responsibilities were established to ensure both parents had a say in critical aspects of the children’s upbringing.

Mediation Process

Family Mediation began in August 2020 and spanned six sessions. Initially, both Mary and Bruce were apprehensive. However, with the guidance and expertise of their Family Mediator, they were able to navigate their complex financial and emotional issues. The mediator’s role was crucial in facilitating discussions, managing financial affairs, and providing options. We made significant progress by structuring a settlement that optimized tax credits and ensured compliance with Canada Revenue Agency regulations. The family mediation process allowed them to address their differences constructively, especially regarding their children’s future.

Separation Agreement Details

The final agreement was a testament to the couple’s commitment to their children’s well-being. It delayed the sale of their marital home until Madison’s graduation, providing stability for the children. Spousal support was deemed unnecessary, a decision that was reached through careful consideration of both parties’ financial situations.  A particular condition allowed either party to give a 90-day notice to sell the home if there was a material change in circumstances, ensuring the flexibility needed in their evolving situation.

Outcome and Reflections

The mediation process concluded with a comprehensive Separation Agreement and Parenting Plan that prioritized the children’s happiness and ensured quality time with both parents. Mary and Bruce were relieved and satisfied with the mediation’s speed and effectiveness, contrasting with the prolonged legal battles they wanted to avoid. Their children adapted well to the changes, reaffirming that they made the right decision for their family’s future.

Lessons Learned

This case highlighted the importance of effective communication and compromise. Family Mediation was a valuable alternative to traditional litigation, preserving emotional well-being and financial stability. Mary and Bruce’s story serves as a testament to the power of mediation in resolving complex issues amicably and efficiently.

Confidentiality and Consent

Mary and Bruce consented to share their story with anonymized details to protect their identities, hoping it would help others navigate similar challenges.

Mary and Bruce’s journey through divorce mediation illustrates that with the proper support and willingness to work together, it’s possible to reach an amicable resolution that benefits everyone involved, especially the children. If you or someone you know is facing a similar situation, remember that mediation can offer a path to a smoother, more constructive separation.