Where do I begin, and will I still get a fair settlement in my divorce?
First of all, take a deep breath.
Second, consult a ADFA™ or your accountant so that you are prepared to meet with your lawyer. You will be asked to collect information and documentation on every bank account, credit card, investment, mortgage, pension, and any other asset or liability of your marriage.
This can be an overwhelming task, but when most people sit down with pen and paper and make notes on anything they can think of in this area, they actually have more information with respect to their property than first thought.
Begin to make notes on everything you can think of, it will help your ADFA™ and lawyer immensely. This will at least provide you with a good start; the professionals will guide you from there.