A trial separation requires clear agreements, boundaries and support systems to be successful

Starting a trial separation is a significant decision that requires careful planning and open communication. The process should begin with an honest discussion between partners to establish clear expectations and guidelines for the separation period.

• Set a specific timeframe for the separation (typically 3-6 months)
• Create a written agreement covering financial responsibilities, including bills, mortgage/rent, and shared expenses
• Establish parenting arrangements if children are involved, including schedules and decision-making processes
• Define communication boundaries, including how often and through what methods you’ll stay in touch
• Agree on whether dating others is acceptable during the separation
• Consider engaging a family counsellor or mediator to help navigate the process

It’s important to document all agreements in writing and maintain respectful communication throughout the separation period. Professional support from a counsellor or mediator can help ensure the trial separation serves its intended purpose of clarity and reflection.